Online Dating: Sharing My 'Wisdom'

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I'll admit it: I've tried online dating. Not only have I tried it, I've met someone awesome online. I really don't think it's even that embarrassing anymore; I know loads of people who have met their boyfriends/girlfriends/fiances through online dating. Besides, if you've finished uni and there's no-one suitable at work, how exactly are you supposed to find a new partner without getting online?

I did the online thing for around four months (on and off) before I met my boyfriend. I've been thinking about doing a blog post about online dating for a while, so here it is...

How do you work up the nerve to get started?
Window shop! This is a bit sad really, but for about two months before I even created a profile, I searched dating sites just to see if there was anyone out there that I even wanted to meet up with. When I started to feel like I actually wanted to start sending out messages, I bit the bullet and made my profile (I might have been a little bit drunk at the time).

What should I put on my profile?
This sounds stupid, but something. Unless you are smokin' hot, you're probably not going to get many messages by writing, 'I hate writing profiles, message me to find out more' and leaving it at that. A list of facts (some important, some funny, some weird) about yourself will do. Put up a decent, but not the best photo of you that's ever been taken. Better to pleasantly surprise rather than slightly disappoint when it comes to actually meeting someone.

Don't you end up getting loads of messages from creepy men?
YES. Especially if you're on a free website. In fact, this is one of the most hilariously terrible/brilliant things about online dating. Laugh, delete, continue.

How long should you wait until meeting up with someone?
Personally, I think a week or two is fine. I wouldn't want to invest loads of time in messaging someone I've never even met. That said, it also depends on where you live, because I guess if you're having to travel 100 miles for a date you might want to wait until you know them a bit better. I've always felt perfectly safe on dates, but it's worth remembering that you are meeting a complete stranger, so be safe, yeah?

What if I go on a date and it's a complete disaster?
Leave. Turn the whole thing into a hilarious anecdote for friends/colleagues/twitter.

Any online dating success stories/disasters you want to share with me? Please share, I wanna hear your thoughts on this!

5 comments

  1. Congratulations! Internet dating is so hit and miss, I went through years of trying it on and off before I got lucky and found my wonderful boyfriend (puke!). And I had SO many disasters along the way, so I guess the moral of the story is to never give up. I wrote this blogpost about my adventures (or misadventures, rather!).
    http://wordsthatcanonlybeyourown.blogspot.co.uk/2013/03/misadventures-in-internet-dating.html

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  2. Brilliant post.
    A lot of my friends are on internet dating and have a lot of funny stories to tell but also a lot of good stories.
    If I was single I would definitely sign up. x

    Leanne - A Slice of My Life

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  3. I think online dating is brilliant, for obvious reasons! The stigma around it does seem to be disappearing quickly, but some people still turn up their noses at it... losers x

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  4. I think that the stigma attached to online dating is not really what it used to be. With so many people working so much longer and not having the money to be socialising all of the time in the hope of meeting someone (and who wants to meet their other half when they're plastered in a bar anyway?!) then it is fast becoming the most sensible option. The days of huge multi-corp offices where you could have your eye one someone from another department / floor and didn't have to work in close proximity to them all day, every day, seem to be over as well, so where else do you meet people?
    I think that most people spend so much time on social media sites now that dating sites end up just being an extension of that.
    Saying this, I've never tried one. A lot of my friends have and have had mixed experiences.

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